Boys are Dumb… Let’s Throw Rocks at Them!!!

Boys are Dumb… Let’s Throw Rocks at Them!!! 

A friend of mine had the saying above on a T-shirt with an angry little cartoon-ish girl getting ready to toss a rock… this saying has stuck with me for years and years… On the surface it’s a cute shirt, but looking deeper, it’s 50% a true statement! Boys ARE dumb… I wouldn’t go as far as throwing rocks at them, but a good shake now and then wouldn’t hurt…

It’s taken me 40 years, several relationships and one marriage to come to the conclusion that boys are dumb! It’s not their fault, it’s their wiring… It’s not like they don’t want to be smart, their brains just don’t work the same as ours do…

Boys see things as black and white, I recently got an email from an old friend who said “I walk through life a lot with “man eyes”, where football or sports are the only things that make absolute sense”… This was in response to us going over the past and it was my point of view versus his… Basically I was saying sooooo much with very few words and he was just hearing the words and not seeing the meaning I was hiding inside those few words.

“Silence is a girl’s loudest cry.”  Unknown

This is advice about ALL men, not just boyfriends or husbands, but colleagues, bosses, employees, friends, brothers and fathers too…

My brother is the single most evolved male on this planet, to the point he spells woman with a Y, womyn…! But he’s still thick as a brick sometimes.

This got me thinking, boys are dumb! And it’s up to us, women, to help them on their journey. We need to stop expecting, to stop assuming, to stop playing games, to stop insinuating and start being clear. If he asks you, “what’s wrong?”  our usual reply would be a flat “Nothing, I’m fine” and expect him to read into that, to think, ‘nope, something’s wrong, I better look back on the past few days and come up with the reason’… because he’s just going to hear “Nothing, I’m fine” and is going to walk away, relieved, and carry on with his day. When we are asked “What’s wrong?” we NEED to be specific, to tell him what is bothering us in the clearest most simple terms possible. If he knows something is wrong he will move heaven and earth to make it better…

“When a girl says ‘don’t worry about it’, you’d better worry about it.”  Unknown

Some of the best advice I ever received was from one of my uncles, Nosher Uncle, or Nasia, in India, granted he was telling me this because I, as a Canadian girl with English as my first language, spoke way too fast for him, and he wanted me to slow down… but it really does apply here… and it comes from… yep, you guessed it… A BOY! He said “Speak S-L-O-W-L-Y, Clearly and Distinctly” and the ‘distinctly’ was always pronounced ever so, ummm… distincTly!

It’s not that these boys don’t WANT to help, to understand, to ‘get it’, their brains just don’t function like ours do… He did ask you what’s wrong because he genuinely does care, he felt something was up and took the time to ask… if you leave it open and unclear, or expect him to read your mind when your words are quoting a separate book, well then mi’lady, it’s your fault and not his!

Hmmmm… Now that I’ve read this through I’ve come to the realization that honestly… IT’S US GIRLS THAT ARE REALLY DUMB!!!!!

Boys, I promise to try harder from now on…  



5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Vivek - The evolved brother
    Feb 06, 2012 @ 12:32:35

    Very nicely written.
    I hope many people read this.
    It could save a lot of lives!

    A couple important follow up points

    1) Sometimes we are dumb on purpose.
    Sometimes we really don’t want to understand.
    It’s just easier (or at least it feels easier at the time!)

    See we know we’re different from you as well!

    2) Telling us what is wrong is a good start.
    Telling us exactly how to fix it would help a lot.
    It’s really quite a painful guessing game otherwise.
    When we (rarely) get it right we are quite surprised ourselves and we breathe a sigh of relief!!

    Anything I can do to help 🙂


  2. James Christianson
    May 19, 2013 @ 00:24:47

    This is why families are being destroyed and there are so many absent fathers–man haters like you have taken over family court system, welfare system, DV system SOLELY to push dads out and give women free money. Are your sadistic, macabre, domestic violence perpetrating azz wants to encourage girls to be violent toward boys (proving and verifying all the stats that women are more violent than men).


    • lalitababy
      May 19, 2013 @ 00:43:56

      Dear Mr. Misogyny,

      Hahaha, from your comment it is VERY apparent you have chosen to only read the title and not the entire post… Perhaps you could actually read the blog and then try, really try, to dig yourself out of the ignorant hole you have dug so deeply…

      Sincerely, and God Speed!

      Me 

      p.s. I went to a comedy club tonight, I laughed so hard tears came to my eyes… but this response from you is truly the funniest thing I have heard today, so thank you!


  3. rob w
    Nov 09, 2013 @ 17:12:22

    judging from level of acumen demonstrated by your mysandrious hate-speech, you must be a boy yourself?


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