“You can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old.” George Burns

 
 
 
 
 
 
“You are as young as your faith, as old as your doubt; as young as your self-confidence, as old as your fear; as young as your hope, as old as your despair.” Douglas MacArthur 
 
The past few months I have been working adult consumer trade shows (Sexapalooza and Everything to do with Sex Show) for a client of mine… My role is to organize with the show representatives prior to the show, set up the actual booth, hire and manage the models, promote the product during the show, make contacts with other vendors and set up marketing/promotional deals, tear down the booth… and do it all over again for each show.  
 
It’s an exhausting gig, upwards of 35 hours on my feet in 3 days (something, in my youth I could do in 3″ heels)… But fun, so much fun! It’s a great industry, open, wild and friendly people…
 
“You don’t appreciate a lot of stuff in school until you get older. Little things like being spanked every day by a middle-aged woman: Stuff you pay good money for in later life. ” Emo Philips
 
I’ve learned a lot over the past 4 months… I am working alongside some of the best sales and marketing people I have ever encountered, picking tips and techniques that I am using in my own business and it’s paying off!

I’ve also learned… working with young hot, sexy, scantily clad models, I am now a middle-aged woman… and that’s not a bad thing! I, too, was all dressed up sexy, boobies out, (Their real and their spectacular!) legs showing (I do have gorgeous gams!)…. What I am now referring to as “Cougar-Fabulous”! But When people came to the booth they would ask, “so are you the owner of cam4?” LOL!

While I did have several admirers of “the girls” I was the point person for talking up the product. My grey hairs, wrinkles, all defined me as “corporate” 🙂 I did have one couple who wanted their photo taken with  me, but that’s because I recognized them from Rich Bride, Poor Bride, and when they found out I am an event planner they loved me LOL!

I may be aging in years, but I’ll never grow up! I may be getting older, but I believe I am getting better… I’ve made a lot of mistakes over the decades, some small and some monumental (insert F-bomb here) ones and have always tried to never repeat them… sometimes it may take a few tries, but I do still have the ability to learn… 

“Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.” Samuel Ullman
 
As I knock on 40’s door I am blessed with millions of amazing memories and very few regrets… I look forward to each day with the promise of beauty, joy, laughter, learning, and always love.
 
“Age does not diminish the extreme disappointment of having a scoop of ice cream fall from the cone.” Jim Fiebig
 
So, as said above, I have grey hairs, lots of them, I have a couple of wrinkles, I refer to as laugh lines, and the good news is, no one has ever said I look 40… perhaps they were being kind, but I like to think they are honest 🙂 But what the last 39.5 years has given me I would never trade merely to get a few years back under my belt… Overall, I have had a great life, I look back and feel the laughter, the warmth, the love, the joy, the light…
 
“The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball.” Doug Larson
 
The numbers may be rising, but my inner child will forever throw snowballs and giggle senselessly until the very end… 
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Lalita version 2.0

My first blog… I signed up for this account about a month ago but it took me a while to figure out what to write… Then today I had an incredibly eye-opening morning and felt the need to express it in more characters than the Facebook 420…

But I’ll start with my Facebook status from this morning and go from there…

It’s not even noon, I am still in my jammies on the sofa and today, Thursday February 24, 2011, has been a life changing day… a day full of learning hard, painful, but needed lessons, a day full of love from thousands of miles away, a day I will forever hold in my heart… it’s a defining day, it’s a miraculous day… a day that has eternally changed who I am, and who I want to be…

Two days ago I posted this quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer “Choose to align yourself with people who are like-minded in their search for simplified inspiration. Give those who find fault or who are confrontational a silent blessing and remove yourself from their energy as quickly as possible. Your life is simplified enormously when you don’t have to defend yourself to anyone, and when you receive support rather than criticism.”

Then my sweet Russian Irina reposted it, I mentioned I had read and reread the quote and am in need of cleaning house in my relationships… to which she replied

“You are too loving, Lalita. Just let them go. It’s quality of friends that matters, not quantity. That’s one of the reasons why I only have a handful of friends across all the continents. My time is too precisions and I chose to spend it only with the kindest and most loving people. I even changed jobs because I didn’t want to be around people who didn’t make me feel good. You are so wonderfully amazing, Lalita. You deserve to be around only the most beautiful souls who make you feel that you are the best thing that ever happened to us :-)”

Wow… well that made me cry and cry and cry some more… but it also made me think about how I’ve spent my life… I am not complaining mind you, I am just making a statement of fact… I have spent the majority of my time listening to others, being there for others, taking on their problems as if they were my own. I do always and forever want to be available to my friends, be an ear, a shoulder, a safe place for them to go to… I can no longer take these problems to heart… I don’t mean I want to stop caring, I couldn’t possibly stop caring about the people I love… it does mean I need to detach myself from their problems… I immerse myself in them, think about them at nights, worry, stress etc. BUT DAMMIT I have my own problems… those are the ones on which I need to focus…

I have spent way too many years inside the lives of others, all the while ignoring my own issues… and lemme tell people I gots issues! (According to one very dear friend who has heard my life story in its entirety… “You should sell your life story to Hollywood and just watch the money roll in” LOL, perhaps one day I will).

Finally, this morning, someone posted this video on Facebook, http://www.facebook.com/?ref=logo#!/video/video.php?v=186403811399813&comments

It moved me so deeply, that I wept for what seemed like hours… This man, who most of the world would write off as disabled with little potential for any thing other than mediocrity, created…. created beauty & joy… he made his life worth living, he found a passion, he followed it, he made believers out of skeptics, he made the impossible… possible.

He, without even knowing it, has forever changed me… From this moment onwards I will put everything I have into living a great life… I will stop hoping, and wishing and start asking and demanding… I will try to have unwavering faith in the Almighty that I am where I am for a reason and will fulfill that reason with all that I am…